Friday, October 29, 2004
quite funny, i was so bored with studying, i started reading this book which has been sitting on my book shelf for ages and ages. " HOw to live wihtout Fear and Worry" by K. Sri Dhammananda.. and i chanced upon this...
breaking up
In any love relationship, there is always teh possiblity of breaking up. A relationship which was like a dream had turned sour and the parites involved could see the split coming. in the breakup ofa relationship there is pain, esp. when one's emotionas are all tied up in knots. emotional knots have to be cutsonner or later, and each time tehey are cut the parties involved bleed a little. One should accept the fact that for some time, one will be subjected to sharp fluactuations in emotions. memories of things said or done could suddenly arise and fill one with a flood of emotions.
At first, there will be shock. One will find it hard to believe that the breakup has really happneded. One has a find a way to face teh loneliness of being alone. But even this will go away eventually. it is not going to go way in a day or a week; it will take time but it will go away. try to live one day at a time. don't think about the past or worry too mcuha bout the future. Living one day a ta time will help one in tiding over the worst days.
One may enjoy some gain, but for every gain there is also the danger of loss. this is true for fame, praise and happiness, which have the risk of their negative counterparts, namely defame, blame and pain, arising. However, the occurrence of every negative condition carreies also the hope that things will change for the better. A loss can set teh foundations for future gain, pain can turn into happiness. SUch is the instabilty of worldly conditions. And the affair of the heart, being subject to wordly conditions, is no differet. A love between 1 persons can grow into something deep andmatured, fed by selfless giving, mutual respect and sharing. It can also turn sour when teh parties invovled become careless with one another or when conditions change through no one's fault.
ONe way to find solace for your mental agony or frustration is to understand teh degree of your own sufferings nad difficulties with that experieince by others. Recap why you have gone through b4 under similar or worse circumstances and how you have, through your patience and efforts, been able to surmount your then seemingly difficulties...
kinky eh? funny reading this tho'.. coz i've read another book by this author b4 and he didn't seem like a guy who would discuss this issue.but then again, the other book was " what buddhist believe" so erm. self explainatory :) i wonder how he actually got insight into this. but interesting how he managed to summurise it all in a couple of pages. Seems a little belitteling to put so many emotions on a couple of pages. ( but as xl would say, hey.. it's a bunch of neurotransmitterS!!!!") There was also something about crushes.. i'll put it in next time.. LOL. quite funny.. :) but nonetheless.. true.
breaking up
In any love relationship, there is always teh possiblity of breaking up. A relationship which was like a dream had turned sour and the parites involved could see the split coming. in the breakup ofa relationship there is pain, esp. when one's emotionas are all tied up in knots. emotional knots have to be cutsonner or later, and each time tehey are cut the parties involved bleed a little. One should accept the fact that for some time, one will be subjected to sharp fluactuations in emotions. memories of things said or done could suddenly arise and fill one with a flood of emotions.
At first, there will be shock. One will find it hard to believe that the breakup has really happneded. One has a find a way to face teh loneliness of being alone. But even this will go away eventually. it is not going to go way in a day or a week; it will take time but it will go away. try to live one day at a time. don't think about the past or worry too mcuha bout the future. Living one day a ta time will help one in tiding over the worst days.
One may enjoy some gain, but for every gain there is also the danger of loss. this is true for fame, praise and happiness, which have the risk of their negative counterparts, namely defame, blame and pain, arising. However, the occurrence of every negative condition carreies also the hope that things will change for the better. A loss can set teh foundations for future gain, pain can turn into happiness. SUch is the instabilty of worldly conditions. And the affair of the heart, being subject to wordly conditions, is no differet. A love between 1 persons can grow into something deep andmatured, fed by selfless giving, mutual respect and sharing. It can also turn sour when teh parties invovled become careless with one another or when conditions change through no one's fault.
ONe way to find solace for your mental agony or frustration is to understand teh degree of your own sufferings nad difficulties with that experieince by others. Recap why you have gone through b4 under similar or worse circumstances and how you have, through your patience and efforts, been able to surmount your then seemingly difficulties...
kinky eh? funny reading this tho'.. coz i've read another book by this author b4 and he didn't seem like a guy who would discuss this issue.but then again, the other book was " what buddhist believe" so erm. self explainatory :) i wonder how he actually got insight into this. but interesting how he managed to summurise it all in a couple of pages. Seems a little belitteling to put so many emotions on a couple of pages. ( but as xl would say, hey.. it's a bunch of neurotransmitterS!!!!") There was also something about crushes.. i'll put it in next time.. LOL. quite funny.. :) but nonetheless.. true.
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